Darling Nikki
| 13 February 2009
Ahhhh Valentine's Day. Seems to me that men get most of the pressure; to get the "right" gift, to make dinner reservations etc. Failure to do so, for some, can result in some serious backlash.
I say Happy Valentine's Day to a few people. My mom, my child, my girlfriends, my guy friends;
Talk about a day that you are blatantly aware you're single and free as a bird; Valentines Day. No pressure though.
For those who aren't single, the list of what you can do to celebrate this day for lovers, (or likers) is endless. From (the standard, but traditional) flowers, to dinner, to a weekend getaway. Women can never have too many diamonds. It really depends on your finances. Some people go all out. Others, opt for an overnight stay somewhere nice. A man from my gym was quite pleased to tell me that he and his wife had both booked off work Friday, had a babysitter arranged, and were taking off for the day and night to a 5 star hotel. It's nice to see people who are happy, and they're not newlyweds.
At the very least, if you're married/living together or otherwise "officially together" then you definitely have to say "I love you" on Valentine's Day. It's like a "rule". Check the book, it's in there. Dine out or order in. Make your own fun. The best things in life are free.
I haven't had to pick out a card or anticipate much of anything in quite some time. The last few times that I actually did, (whilst unhappily co-habitating) I reeeally wasn't into it. I'd pick up and read several cards but there was not a single one that truly described how I felt. (Hallmark doesn't have a card that says "incase you were wondering, I can't stand you" ;) I'd finally decide on a friendly/humorous one. It was an obligatory, token gesture. The last breaths of a relationship that was on life-support with a D.N.R. order.
The following year, on Valentine's day, I wasn't even in town. Talk about it being OVER. That's not to say that I didn't do something nice, with someone special. I just didn't do it here at home. I think that's pretty straightforward. I was never good at pretending. Yes, its usually a "sign" when the woman or man you live with is nowhere in sight on Valentine's Day (or when there's an emergency surgery). Sounds worse than it was... Besides, he survived. In my defense, there was no malice - the flight was booked in advance of the surgery!
Far be it from me to rain on anyone's parade. To me it's black and white, Valentine's Day or not. If you truly love and care for someone, they should be told from time to time, but more importantly: SHOWN, consistently. Whether it's your husband, wife, partner or your kids. Even big kids. The words "I love you", when spoken sincerely, are a few of the nicest words a person can say to another. They ARE a gift. Amen.
I often tell a few of my close friends that I love them, (Male and Female).
Happy Valentine's Day.
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