Darling Nikki
| 30 April 2009
Okay, its official. Some people should NOT drink. If we go with the theory that it's the TRUTH that comes spilling out of people whilst intoxicated, God help us all, & might I add; sometimes it's best NOT to know how someone really thinks/feels/is.A case in point & yes, I think I finally "get it" - aside from the few proven, good male friends I have, I now completely agree with what MANY a man has told me; "Men CANNOT be 'just friends' with women". Especially if said man, finds said woman 'friend' attractive. There's always a few exceptions, but these words are true.
A recent weekend trip to New York proved to be quite the adventure. Before I even boarded the plane, I had the pleasure (?)of meeting a couple of people at the bar/restaurant in the Airport. My flight was delayed. As luck would have it, the man who was drinking the doubles of whiskey was on the same flight as me, & "Bingo" wasn't his seat right beside mine? He was somewhat composed considering, & I had to laugh as he volunteered to me that the wedding band on his finger was really just an "Irish Ring" & that he wasn't in fact married. "Like I care" I said. "What does it matter to me?"
Turns out he's married with 3 kids. Again, a mute point. He was a total stranger that I would never again have cause to see after the 1 hour, domestic flight. Once seated, he asked if I cared to rest my head on his shoulder. (?!?) No thanks. Then he pinches my stomach and tells me, "you should work on that". I said "look Mr. Universe (not), stop mauling me - you're being an ass."
That made a big impression - he then asked me if I cared to join the "mile high club" with him!
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| The emergency exit I was seated right beside was starting to look good. |
Mr. Observant then says, "wow, you've got great arms, those are some nice guns you've got there". This is juuust the talk to be having on a PLANE! He continues (in mock fashion, but he's not the most quiet dude) to motion to the stewardess to tell her I have 'GUNS'. He did this (pretended he was going to say that) about three times. I told him to shut up and picture the trouble he'd be in when we landed & for the short flight we were on (he takes it regularly), I said (holding up a pretend "frame"), "Picture this - YOU in the dead of winter riding your BIKE to NYC because that's what you'll be doing, & that's AFTER they detain you for hours once we land". He finally gave up his silly antics but imagine if that had been a longer flight. The emergency exit I was seated right beside was starting to look good. I felt like I was on a Seinfeld episode. Just think, me & Elmer the (buzzed) Safety Elephant had been assigned the task of opening the exit, in the event of an emergency.
The fun didn't stop there. The friend I was there to visit is someone I've known for FOUR years. I've had a few drinks with him on occasion but never in excess. He is JUST a friend, & never has there been any involvement/discussion other than friendship, between us. Well, on the Saturday night I was there, he decided to have a few more than usual at a bar we went to that was small, but crowded, & featured a cover band. This (extra 'few' drinks) resulted in him acting wounded, jealous, & possessive when someone offered to buy me a drink, which I politely declined because I could feel the "hawkeyes" on me even before the drink offer. Before I knew it, my friend turned love struck teenager was GONE in 60 seconds - & I was left in the Big Apple, & I'm not familiar with the City. Shortly thereafter I received a mini-flurry of nonsense text messages telling me how disrespectful I was/am, etc. WHATEVER. No big deal, I'm pretty resourceful, & I don't scare that easily when on my own. What to do, what to do? Naturally, I had a great time with buddy that offered me the drink & the group he was with. We hopped a cab back to my hotel, grabbed my things (my friend had booked the hotel for me, and I did NOT want to be there another night, & chance having it out with him if he came there) & stayed with them. PLUS I got a ride to the Airport the following day. Who says you can't do New York on a shoe-string? My new friend (same guy who offered to buy me the drink) is in the medical profession in NY and I'm happy to report, he was a perfect gentleman. Chivalry is NOT dead. Taking the train at 5 a.m. in the morning (to where he had parked his car) is interesting, I will say that. New York really doesn't sleep. Me, him and his friends (men and women) had a great time and although I didn't have the best night's sleep (only a few hours), it was fun & I felt fine because I hadn't drank too much.
My friend has since apologized profusely,
(via email, I haven't spoken to him), admits he was "completely out of line" and is "deeply ashamed" etc. Still, this changes things. This (for me) was right out of left field. I now get "IT". Most Men Cannot Be 'Just Friends' With Women. I get it, I get it. Having said that, it is also CLEAR that some people should refrain from drinking alcohol if they can't control their impulses & emotions. It's certainly a good way to (potentially) end a friendship. I continue to live and learn. Cheers!
Darling Nikki
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